Salam Alaikum :) I’m a 16 year old teenager who is currently in High School. My question is about staring at women. I’m currently trying to not stare at girls in other words, “lower my gaze” What I’m asking under what circumstances is it okay. For example in some of my classes I have to collaborate with girls on certain assignments. I know I have to be respectful but I’m also confused on when its okay and when its not okay. Thank You very much for your time :)

All praise be to Allah and may His blessings and peace be on His messenger, Muhammad,

If you are having difficulties with this issue, which is not unexpected of someone your age, you may ask your parents to place you in an Islamic school or one that has the genders separated. If that is not possible, then Allah said,

“اتَّقُوْا اللهَ مَا استَطَعتُم”

“So, fear Allah as much as you can.”

Working with a mixed group is fine as long as one is modest and proper. You should lower your gaze as much as you can, particularly when you feel that your stares are lustful. Make sure the pleasure of Allah is more important to you than that of the people. If they think you are strange for something you do for Allah’s sake, then be hopeful of a great reward. The Messenger of Allah said,

“بَدَأَ الإِسْلامُ غَرِيبًا، وَسَيَعُودُ كَمَا بَدَأَ غَرِيبًا، فَطُوبَى لِلْغُرَبَاءِ”

“Islam started as a strange thing and will go back to being strange, so may the strangers rejoice [in their reward].” [Muslim from Abi Hurairah]

Make sure you have good company most of the time. Wholesome recreation is important for our emotional stability and wellbeing. Visit your local masjid often and be involved in the activities of your local Muslim community.

May Allah make it easy for you and protect you.