Assalamu Alaykom, I wanted to ask you about my wifes behavior. I live in South Korea and I got married 6 months ago. My wife wants me to practice anal sex and when I refuse she becomes angry. She became Muslim before our marriage. What should I do?
ibn Thabit (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace be upon him) said:
(إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يَسْتَحْيِي مِنْ الْحَقِّ – ثَلَاثَ مَرَّاتٍ – لَا تَأْتُوا النِّسَاءَ فِي أَدْبَارِهِنَّ)
“Allah is not too shy to tell the truth” three times. “Do not have intercourse with women in their back passages.” [Narrated by Ibn Majah and authenticated by al-Albani.]
This only applies to anal intercourse, which is the introduction of the male’s genital organ into the anus. This doesn’t apply to other forms of anal sex, such as using the fingers.
Since she is a new Muslim, you may try to gratify her needs in whichever way other than the forbidden anal intercourse.
Allah knows best.