According to my knowledge, Islam prescribes early age marriages for both males and females (during their teenage). Our societal structure doesn’t allow this because marriage is requires many responsibilities which people with mental immaturity cannot take up. Does this prescription of early marriages still apply to the contemporary world?
What’s is the role of Qiyas and Ijma in this case?
P.S. When teenagers can enter into physical relationships and give birth/ get abortions done, what’s the harm in getting married? I have many Muslim friends with whom i had heated debate and they simply ridicule the idea of early marriages. Please give me an answer which can satisfy me completely.No one answered so far. reply ASAP because I’m disturbed.
All praise be to Allah and may His blessings and peace be on His last messenger, Muhammad,
Getting married young is the prescription of the prophet for some of the toughest challenges that face the youth and have an enormous impact on the well-being of the society; he (blessings and peace be upon him) said:
” يا معشر الشباب، من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغَضُّ للبصر وأحْصَنُ للفرج ومن لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وِجاء ”
“O young people, let those of you who afford marriage get married for it will help them lower their gaze and protect their chastity. And for those who don’t afford it, they may fast for it will curb the sexual desire.” [Agreed upon from Ibn Mas’ood]
However, the definition of early itself varies according to the circumstances. Notice that the hadeeth says, “who afford marriage,” which is to afford it in every regard. In all nations, people got married earlier than they do now. In Europe, during the time of Shakespeare, if a woman was single at 13, she was considered late to marriage, as reflected in his writings. An eighteen year old during the time of the Prophet led armies, was dispatched as an ambassador, and ruled a city of the importance of Maccah; would you trust an eighteen year old to do that nowadays? Having a family is not a small task, and it requires a certain degree of maturity.
Having said that, some youth can’t wait until they finish their studies to get married, and in this case, the choice is between marriage and fitnah (sin); I hope the decision should be obvious. Also, those youth who can live on their own while studying, may be able to live with a spouse as well. They may defer having children until they can afford that.
In summary, early marriage in principle is encouraged, but reason must be employed in the implementation of that principle.
Allah knows best.